We want our baby to know that their birth mom loves them so much that she lovingly carried them and selflessly made a plan for their good.
Alex, Sally, and Pine
We want to start off by saying, you are so brave and you are loved. We know life is hard, and the circumstances you find yourself in might be very difficult. We know you love your sweet baby so much and you want to make a good plan for their future. We are so proud of you. We want you to know a little bit about our heart for you. We have several friends and family members who were not supported when they faced unplanned pregnancies. Their families, friends and churches should have been there for them in one of the most challenging times they ever faced. But they weren’t. And that makes us so sad. We are here for you. We are praying for you. We are praying for your baby. And if you decide we are the right family to love your baby, we will always honor you in our home. There is no judgment or condemnation. We are amazed at your sacrifice and bravery—to put your baby first. We want our baby to know that their birth mom loves them so much that she lovingly carried them and selflessly made a plan for their good. THANK YOU for taking the time to consider us. It’s so strange to try to get to know someone through a book, but we tried our best to give you a real look into our lives. So here goes! We’re Sally, Alex, and Pine, and this is our story.
We’ve just sort of always known adoption would be part of our story. That it was what God had planned for us.
Alex, Sally, and Pine at the Eiffel Tower
When people ask us why we have chosen adoption, it can be a little difficult to answer. We’ve just sort of always known adoption would be part of our story. That it was what God had planned for us. We waited eight years after getting married to try for a baby. And in fact, we thought about not trying at all, and just moving straight to adoption. But over time, we felt like God opened our hearts to having a biological child, so we decided to start there. After losing our first pregnancy, we found out we were expecting our son, Pine. We were thrilled when he was born, and he is such a great joy in our lives. But as we started thinking about having another baby, we just knew it was time to adopt. Pine has always known that our next child would likely be adopted, because that’s the way we have always talked about expanding our family. We have never felt that our children needed to be biological. We know we will love like crazy any children God gives us, and we are so excited to adopt! We can’t wait to have another kid to love and a brother or sister for Pine. We also have a deep desire to support birth mothers like you, who are in the challenging situation of an unplanned pregnancy. As followers of Jesus, we want to show His love, care, grace and acceptance. You are choosing selfless love—putting your baby’s needs before your own. That is amazing. We’re ready to grow our family as soon as we find our match! And we look forward to the new life we will have as a family, and the new relationship we will have with you as well.
There have been many ups and downs, but our love and support for each other has only grown deeper.
Alex and Sally
We met each other while we were both college cheerleaders. Sally had gone to college in Indiana because her boyfriend at the time played football for Notre Dame. So she went to a nearby smaller college to be close to him. Not long after Sally, Alex joined the cheerleading team, too. He had been a swimmer in high school and some of the girls recruited him because he looked strong. :) That fall, our coaches paired us up as cheerleading stunt partners (for more info, see the Netflix docu-drama, Cheer :P ). During that semester, we spent a lot of time together at practice, games and workouts, and slowly became great friends. After some bumps along the way, Sally broke up with her boyfriend, and shortly after we started dating. We got married about a year and a half later, and have spent that last 15 years growing together (yes, we’re kind of old). These years haven’t always been easy. There have been many ups and downs, but our love and support for each other has only grown deeper. One thing we’ve noticed is that when one of us is having a hard time, the other stays strong and helps pick up the slack. God has shown us so much mercy and grace, and we try to extend that mercy and grace to each other. We have a lot of fun with each other and are still best friends. We love to go to coffee shops and just talk, we love to ride bikes with each other after we drop our son, Pine, off at school and we love to travel together. We’re each other’s people, and we’re in this for the long haul. :)
We just love learning about new things, so we’re always up to something.
Alex, Sally, and Pine canoeing.
We might have too many hobbies. We just love learning about new things, so we’re always up to something. As a family, we love to travel, spend time in nature and learn about other cultures. We thought we might travel less after having kids, but we’ve actually traveled more! We’ve taken Pine to Hawaii, Canada, Puerto Rico, Mexico, Iceland, Spain, Portugal, and France. Alex and I have additionally traveled to South Africa, India, Ireland, Costa Rica, Hong Kong, and Israel. We love to travel with our close friends and usually spend a lot of time in nature wherever we go. Hiking and canoeing are two of our favorite ways to relax! We love learning languages and are currently working on Spanish as a family. Alex especially loves learning languages and speaks a bit of Chinese and Japanese as well! Alex enjoys playing computer and video games, including minecraft with Pine. He loves reading and playing board games (we play a lot of board games as a family!). Sally loves cooking and baking (she even won a State Fair cookie contest!), eating on patios, spending time with friends and drinking lots of cappuccinos and Topo Chico. Sally likes all kinds of food, but chocolate croissants, sushi, and tacos top her list. We also love hanging out with our friends from church. Every week, we host a group of people from our church in our home. We usually have a brief Bible study, share prayer requests and then cook and eat a meal together. This group has been such a joy to get to know. Many of us have been in the same group for more than ten years, so we know each other very well. They have supported us through good times and hard times, and we couldn’t be more thankful for them.